I feel that we live in a world of phony people today. When I watch the “Influencers” on YouTube and other social media sites most of them just seem so phony to me. I often feel they are over-excited, too happy, and trying too hard to convince us of how great it is to be living their life. I just have this overwhelming feeling that they simply aren’t that way in everyday life. Not to mention that the phoniness keeps me from wanting to see more. In the world of sales, it’s referred to as over-selling. When you over-sell, you make promises that are too good to be true and you will be unable to deliver on the promises you make.
Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t believe all of the “Influencers” are that way. Moreover, I am attracted to people that I believe are just being themselves. I also believe most of us fall into the same category. We gravitate to people who we feel are just being who they are. Maybe because we feel that these are the people we can trust and find more enjoyable to be around.
Hence the reason for this post. If you really want to influence others, be yourself. Don’t try to be someone you’re not in hopes of getting others to like and accept you. Eventually, others will figure out that you are phony, and that will break any relationship you hope to have with them. It stands to reason that not everyone is going to like you even if you’re being yourself. But that’s ok because not all personalities are going to be attracted to you.
As Mr. Rogers would say, “You are a very special person. There is only one like you in the whole world. There’s never been anyone exactly like you before, and there will never be again. Only you. And people can like you exactly as you are.” Oh, how right he was!! No one else has your fingerprints, or DNA, looks like you or behaves exactly like you. You are unique in every way. So why try to be someone you are not?
Never assume that people will not like you because of who you are. Most people will love and accept you because most of all you are honest with yourself. Sure, we all have character flaws or things we don’t like about ourselves, but those things we can work on to make self-improvements. You don’t have to be perfect, so don’t pretend to be. Learn to love yourself and the laws of attraction will be others who will love you for who you are.
It all boils down to this, people do business with people they like. People they trust, feel are honest, and people they genuinely want to be around. It’s also just easier to go through your daily life being yourself. You have less stress, it’s less draining on you emotionally, your daily routine is smoother and you’re not burdened with the façade your someone you are not. Be yourself and love yourself. Then others will love you because of who you are.
Photographically yours,
Larry
